Through the eyes of a carer for someone with a mental illness

Ward round before Christmas

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The Friday before Christmas I attended a ward round for Chris. It was the first one that I had been able to go to since the old consultant had left. The last ward round had been held on the day of my Grandad’s funeral so understandably I couldn’t make it and they didn’t want to rearrange it either. We were called into the lounge where it was taking place, in the room was his Social Worker, a nurse from the ward, the Advanced Practitioner, the new Consultant (temporary? Permanent? Who Knows?) and Chris and I.

Not a lot had changed basically; they were still deciding what to do about Chris, would he be going to a unit? Will he be staying longer where he is and then therapy in the community? The only thing we had established was that an LSU (low secure unit) wasn’t an option after they said he wasn’t suitable. Next problem was their report with their recommendations in hadn’t been completed so everyone wanted to wait for that. Meanwhile though… we wait and wait a bit more it would seem.

No further forward for what Chris future looks like he asked for leave for our daughter’s birthday and also Christmas day. This did make me nervous but as the past couple of weeks had gone without incident I was happy for that to happen. He was allowed two hours for our daughter’s birthday and if that went ok, he was allowed six hours on Christmas day.

Chris had his leave over the birthday and Christmas and both went ok, he struggled but understandably so under the circumstances but otherwise it went without hitch. The girls loved seeing him, Cora didn’t recognise him which made things a little difficult but then he has been out of her life for so long. He managed to handle that better than I thought he might bearing in mind that must be tough for any parent to deal with.

I received a letter a couple of days ago, Chris appealed his section before Christmas, which I far from agree with but his tribunal is being held at the end of January. It worries me that he is thinking too much of the here and now and that his outcome for the future would be helped greatly with more input at the moment. He however doesn’t want to go to a rehabilitation unit and the only way of not being forced is if he isn’t on his section.  I just wish he could see that by doing a lot of hard work now would perhaps give him the best chance of a future of maintaining a better level of well.


Author: acarerseyes

I am a mum to four gorgeous girls, and a carer to my former partner of eight years, Chris who has a mental illness, BPD. I blog my experiences.. life is tough! We live in Greater Manchester, UK.

One thought on “Ward round before Christmas

  1. Oh gosh it’s not easy is it.

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