Through the eyes of a carer for someone with a mental illness

They can put things in place when they want to.

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Something I have noticed recently has made me come to the conclusion that things that I have wanted and that have needed to happen in the past with Chris only happen when he doesn’t actually need it. For example just before Christmas he was admitted onto a psychiatric ward but I didn’t actually think he needed to be, then on his ward round I had them ring me asking my opinion on them sectioning him… yet a few months before I had begged this doctor to do something and he just sent him home. Then when detention under the mental health act seemed outrageous they wanted to?

All the times Chris has taken overdoses and I have wanted our GP to do something but they have always said ‘there is nothing we can do’ yet this other GP convinced Chris to go to a&e because she phoned ahead to a&e and told them all about him. Basically if Chris didn’t go we would end up with them on the phone, ambulances, maybe even a ‘welfare check’ and he didn’t want that so he had to go up there.

Then while he was up there baring in my he had only taken a few more benzo’s than he should have done and didn’t warrant a&e on those grounds (unless he was feeling particularly unwell) like our GP was trying to imply (now I am thinking she did it to get him up there for him to be seen more psychiatrically) they had security keeping a close eye on him. When he went to go for a smoke they said ‘Alright Chris where are you going?’ to which he thought you must have been told about me to know my name. This was enough to stop him doing a runner in the first place. Now where was this when he had taken a more substantial amount of tablets and was even more at risk to himself? I mean I didn’t think he needed hospital admission but I need think it was wise he saw a psychiatrist even if he was just given access to the crisis team. That is where it ended anyway the psychiatrist just sent him home telling him to talk to his CPN the following day. Basically the whole thing was a waste of time.

So why is it when he actually warrants these reactions does he get left and when there really isn’t so much of a need or a lot lesser need they put it all in place?


Author: acarerseyes

I am a mum to four gorgeous girls, and a carer to my former partner of eight years, Chris who has a mental illness, BPD. I blog my experiences.. life is tough! We live in Greater Manchester, UK.

One thought on “They can put things in place when they want to.

  1. It could be that a serious or complex situation makes some “professionals” tense, so that they don’t feel like cooperating, while a less serious situation that they feel they understand encourages them to go through the motions. I’ve seen a similar thing myself — lots of people with milder conditions admitted as inpatients, at the same time as people with more complex conditions are being told there are no beds.

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