There is nothing like being hit by everything at once, and this is exactly what has happened to Chris of late, and it is no wonder he is struggling as much as he is. He was always worried about the birth of Cora, after all Chris is someone who worries himself silly that he isn’t this perfect person he wants to be and fears he is failing his children, which of course isn’t true but he believes it and beats himself up over it, cue going round in circles.
So what he didn’t need was to lose his social worker a few weeks before Cora was due and even worse that he found out the way he did and she never really did say goodbye and hand him over etc it was all handled poorly. Then to add to that his dad suffered a few weeks from bad depression, ended up in a psychiatric ward Chris was once on and it dragged up a load of memories combined with guilt and a whole load of other things. Not to mention when I went into labour his mum refused to have our children and it came close to him missing the birth so he could look after our girls, thank goodness we were saved by amazing, very kind neighbour! Then he found out recently his mother has DVT’s again in both of her legs. To top it all off he was then introduced to his new care coordinator, a cpn.
To be fair after everything he has been through lately he is actually doing a lot better than he would normally manage in such a highly stressful situation. It’s enough to push anyone to the limit but he wasn’t that great before. In all of this he also had a change of medication, which has been upped today to help. His CPN is also providing a lot of support for him and its going to be a take it one day at a time at the moment. I’ve been doing an awful lot with it being the school holidays, having just had Cora and now Chris who isn’t eating, is sleeping an awful lot and needing prompting to get him to do anything at all really.
Fingers crossed things get a little easier in the next few days. I really feel for him that all this has happened, it wasn’t what he needed at all.