Through the eyes of a carer for someone with a mental illness

It was only a matter of time

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Well I am so pleased I told Chris myself about his social worker leaving because it was only a matter of time before the following thing happened and sure as hell yesterday morning it did. Went as normal to depot clinic, which was quiet for a change. Sat waiting in a fairly busy waiting room while people wait for all kinds of treatment while watching the same old drivel they stick on their TV’s telling you things like what accident and emergency is for and not to smoke while pregnant etc. Anyway after a little wait Chris was called through for his depot by his social workers manager. He basically started the conversation off with Chris about how his social worker had left and that they hadn’t found a replacement, that if there were any problems for now he would have to contact him or the duty team and that they couldn’t tell him how long it will take to find him someone else. Well this was a shock because although I had already known she was due to leave, I had no idea she had left and didn’t work for them anymore. Chris said that she hadn’t even told him yet to which he replied, well she has left it to the last minute then hasn’t she. He gave Chris the injection and we left as normal.

Chris contacted his social worker to ask her if everything he had just been told was true and she messaged him back to say it was and she had wanted to tell him face to face. She then told him she would still be his worker until they find him a new one. Now honestly how many different things do you need to be told, do I know what he is meant to do now? Does he even know what he is meant to do now? I just don’t know, everyone says something different. He said to her what the manager had told him to do but she never replied with an answer, so goodness knows. It is bad enough that Chris is losing her after only just feeling able to trust her but it is even worse the way in which they have chosen to do it and their timing as far as the baby and everything else is concerned couldn’t be any worse.

As we go into the next couple of weeks towards the baby being born, all the emotions that brings, the various medical appointments Chris has, the meetings that have already been set up that his social worker would have been a part of I actually feel very down about it all. Once again I feel right back where we were a year ago with no one for Chris to contact and having to rely solely on me. I didn’t see this one coming and in all honesty I am rather worried about the next couple of months now.



Author: acarerseyes

I am a mum to four gorgeous girls, and a carer to my former partner of eight years, Chris who has a mental illness, BPD. I blog my experiences.. life is tough! We live in Greater Manchester, UK.

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