Through the eyes of a carer for someone with a mental illness

The gap in carer support.


Something I have known about for awhile is the gap in support for carers here. You are fine if you a carer with no children, you have the carers centre with a wide range of groups for people to attend both without the person they care for and with the person they care for, they even have groups specifically for carers of someone with a mental illness but they rely on the fact you don’t have children. Then you have support for those who are caring for a child allowing the child to partake in activities while providing respite for the parents and allowing parents to talk to people who understand what they are going through.

The one thing that doesn’t seem to exist is family support for those who are caring and have children, like myself caring for Chris and also having three children to look after, no family support exists where we could meet other families going through the same and allow my children to be with other children who understand how they feel. This doesn’t so much matter now while the girls are still so young but as they get older I would like them to have support and others around them who understand. I know it is something that is needed, I have heard many professionals working with other people say that there should be a group/support for families and sometimes I wish there was something I could do about it. Sadly I have already got a lot going on and to be honest I wouldn’t have a clue where to start with setting something like that up. It will be something that I will keep in mind for the future though.


Author: acarerseyes

I am a mum to four gorgeous girls, and a carer to my former partner of eight years, Chris who has a mental illness, BPD. I blog my experiences.. life is tough! We live in Greater Manchester, UK.

2 thoughts on “The gap in carer support.

  1. I have been a carer from my early teens until my mum died when I was 31. I felt alone and isolated and no one who knew I was a carer pointed me in the direction of support that might have been on offer for me. There seems to be more support for children who are carers of parents now.

    I can understand you wanting to explore options and make it real for people like yourself to have support, but at the same time, I would imagine it would be a massive challenge especially given what you do for Chris and being a fulltime mother.

    In an ideal world I would like to open a crisis house in my town, a little like the Maytree in London, perhaps one day my dream may become a reality!

    • Yes I couldnt do it now, it would finish me off, but its a long term idea if no one is able to sort it out before I am. I hope you keep hold of your dream too, you never know what is around the corner.
      Take care

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