Through the eyes of a carer for someone with a mental illness

Ill in more ways than one.


Well after Chris was told last week he has tonsillitis, he got worse not better with taking the antibiotics so today we went back to the doctors where he was given more. His tonsils are still huge and gunky, his temperature keeps going high and I have never known sweating like it! This is enough for anyone to feel very rotten but when you already have an existing mental illness it has a big knock on effect with that.

The weekend was really tough, aching from a temperature was making his agitation a lot worse to the point he was struggling with the means to control it. He spent a lot of time asleep or upset, I hate seeing him get distressed, it makes me feel hopeless that I cant take it away from him. The trouble is at the moment he needs to ride out the tonsillitis so he is able to feel better physically which should in turn improve his mood. It is so easy for me to say this but harder for him as he’s the one going through it all.

I think people can sometimes underestimate the effect physical illness has on someone mentally. You might just think ‘it’s only tonsillitis’ but for Chris it makes his mental illness a lot worse. He was meant to go for one of his introduction sessions today for a therapeutic community but has had to put it off until he is better which is a shame but he needs to get over this first before adding more stresses in.



Author: acarerseyes

I am a mum to four gorgeous girls, and a carer to my former partner of eight years, Chris who has a mental illness, BPD. I blog my experiences.. life is tough! We live in Greater Manchester, UK.

2 thoughts on “Ill in more ways than one.

  1. Tonsillitis is awful for anyone to have even worse as you say if you suffer from a mental illness, especially something like BPD. I hope Chris is feeling better soon!

    Sorry he had to miss his introduction for the therapeutic community, hope they can scheduled it again for another time for him.

  2. Tonsillitis is one of the worst infections you not only have a raw throat and raging tempreture but your ears ache your head throbs you can’t get comfortable, I can only imagine how Chris feels.
    As a mum myself I know how helpless we are when it comes to our children being sick.
    Your words reflect so much love, and so much truth, we often overlook the flu or an infection like tonsillitis saying oh its just the flu, or a sore throat, when it is far more than that,
    I think partly this is human ignorance and partly this is conditioning to the ‘just that’ ideals we have built up around ourselves.

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