One of the ways in which I cope when things are tough that I discovered on Wednesday whilst at my counselling session is I hold a list of quotes in my head that various people throughout my life have told me and I remind myself of them. Here are some of the ones I remember at the moment.
‘As long as you have done your best, no one can ask anymore of you’
My dad told me this one around the time of any tests or exams etc. His dad, my Grandfather, Grampus god rest his sole used to say it to him. My parents always told me they would be proud of me no matter what my results were because they knew it was the best I could achieve.
‘What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger’
I don’t know where I first heard this, it might have been my mum, I know she reminds me of it when needs be. It’s true for me; I wouldn’t be who I am today if I hadn’t of been through the hard times. I wouldn’t change anything that has happened to me because it shaped me as a person.
‘It takes many drops of water to create the ocean’
Dee (@JoinedU1 ) on twitter told me this one, little steps can lead to something massive, but its taking it one step at a time.
‘It’s the little things in life’
I am not a material person, and I value the little things in life that people do for me, the latest one that really stuck with me was my mum on my birthday rang me while she was at work (she is a teacher) and sang Happy Birthday down the phone. Doesn’t sound much does it? My mum works her bum off, she rarely eats her lunch sitting down, she always has a list of things to do as long as her arm and yet she took ten minutes out of her day to talk to me. She could have quite easily waited till the evening but she didn’t, and it meant a lot.
So there you have some of the quotes I remind myself of, some of the things that make getting to the next day while in the middle of what feels like mayhem achievable. I didn’t even realise until I was discussing it with the counsellor that I even did this, it wasn’t something I made sure I did to manage, I suppose you might say it’s what I did instinctively.