Back in 2009, Chris and I suspected he had Bipolar, before this he just thought he was depressed and that one day he would get himself through it so had left behind all his care in 2007 when we moved to London for a year. However in 2009 thinking it could possibly something along the lines of Bipolar and with how unwell he had been decided it was time to get him to the docs and discuss being referred back to psychiatric services. While he was being passed about from Psychiatric SHO to SHO in 2010 they all agreed Rapid Cycling Bipolar and although his care rather disjointed with seeing so many people he was treated pretty well and they helped as much as they could.
However, one day while Chris and I were seeing his GP and he casually mentioned his BPD diagnoses from 2005, to which I thought ‘what on earth’ yes we then found out that back in 2005 completely unknown to both myself and Chris that he was diagnosed with BPD, but everyone failed to tell him. Now this could have well meant that when we moved to London he would have moved his care to down their knowing he would need it however what you don’t know you can’t do anything about. So when we next saw the psychiatrist we discussed this with them and then they had them both down with a question mark over them.
From the day his BPD diagnoses was used everything changed, the difference in the care he gets now compared to when he was classed Bipolar is huge. Health professionals look at him like he’s a time waster, like he needs to ‘get over his issues’ you name it they have thought it or worse said it! A lot of people are still stuck in the days of ‘BPD can’t be treated and anyone who was more complex or difficult gets put into that group’ where as now it’s supposed to be seen differently. This comes back to being told things like ‘we can’t section someone with a personality disorder’ and ‘I asked if he had a mental illness, not BPD’ both out the mouths of doctors!
The worst part of all this is, they are pretty sure he’s got BPD but they are also pretty sure there is other underlying issues like a mood disorder of some kind as well, and until we have any idea of what is going on properly he is BPD and treated like he’s a pain in the ass. I would just like to point out his social worker and our GP don’t treat him like that in the slightest and are very supportive for they see Chris like I do, for who he is.