Chris hasn’t always had a social worker, before we got her he was given a CPN who he saw for a number of months, however she couldn’t ever come to the house and with his anxiety he found it very hard to get to her. Not to mention they just didn’t get on… at all. The final straw for Chris came after he had ended up in hospital from an overdose and she was going on about if he had phoned her it wouldn’t of happened but if he doesn’t call her she can’t help, completely missing the point that Chris can’t even pick the phone up to call me or any other family member when in crisis let alone her. She then went on to end the session with ‘I will see you in a week, that’s even if you want to come back’ Worst thing ever to say to Chris, because there was no way, no matter how much I tried to talk to him about it, would he go back and see her again. He saw himself as too much of a nuisance to bother her again, so I managed after about three months of asking to get him someone else, who is now his current social worker, who deals with complex patients and is far more understanding of Chris and how he feels.
The breakthrough really was him getting his current Social worker; she is very good and understands how important it is not to let Chris down and to stick to what she says. She always gives him copies of any letters that she writes to people so he can see exactly what she is doing and doesn’t feel like he’s being talked about behind his back. This is because he knows the crisis team always did and even openly admitted discussions about him when he wasn’t even a patient under them.
She has been his constant in the healthcare profession other than our GP and its because of that stability that Chris isn’t anywhere near as bad at the moment than he was when being passed from pillar to post between crisis teams, CPN, A&E etc etc. I think the wait for getting the help was a contributing factor for how ill he got, he waited over a year for help easily and then it didn’t go smoothly.
He was previously known to mental health services from way back in 2004/2005 when he had a really lovely CPN but he gave it all up when we moved to London for a year.. I will write about that in a separate blog.