Through the eyes of a carer for someone with a mental illness

mentally ill or physically ill… cant be both at once.


One huge thing I have found is the issue with mental illness and physical illness. Chris has taken countless overdoses and he’s self harmed landing him in A&E, now a psychiatrist or crisis team will not see anyone who hasn’t been cleared medically fit by a doctor at our hospital. Now more often than not he’s always been required if taken an overdose to remain in hospital under observation at the very least but because a psychiatrist hasn’t assessed his mental state it leaves him free to do as he pleases and that usually consists of going home to ‘finish the job off’ the most anyone says to me when I warn them he’s a habit of not co operating or just leaving that if he left they would call the police… very helpful, I think not. More often than not they didn’t even do that and put him down as ‘self discharged’.

If i can persuade Chris to remain in hospital till he is cleared as being medically fit and then make sure he remains there for the six hours it normally takes them to send a psychiatrist I’m for a start doing well. They show up hours after the event to Chris who is normally agitated and fed up and just wanting to get as far away from their as possible, they ask him a load of questions where he either lies or makes it out to be no big issue, they discharge him and he leaves. They have completely missed the opportunity to see him completely distressed like when he entered. Cue this cycle over and over again for months.

Seems no one will treat them both at the same time and until someone does chances are Chris would continue to walk out.


Author: acarerseyes

I am a mum to four gorgeous girls, and a carer to my former partner of eight years, Chris who has a mental illness, BPD. I blog my experiences.. life is tough! We live in Greater Manchester, UK.

2 thoughts on “mentally ill or physically ill… cant be both at once.

  1. Bless your heart it seems that they would at least try to treat the whole person in order to help him more effectively, That sounds so frustrating. I pray that someday someone will get a clue to offer Chris some real help and things will get better. Hugs! Stay strong.

  2. i know exactly how frustrating this is. whenever i go into ED and have to be medically cleared first it takes forever before i see a psych. usually by then i am sectioned and panicking and a whole lot more worked up than i was to begin with. this is because i HATE being in ED so i always freak out with a panic attack and try to leave then they section me. it’s a cycle that keeps repeating.

    my psychologist calls up the bed manager to make sure theres a bed in the psych ward before taking me to the hospital if she feels i am too at risk to go home because she knows what always happens before i see the psych and then i try to lie to them saying i’ll be fine so i can go home and act on the impulses.

    take care.

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