Through the eyes of a carer for someone with a mental illness

Two places.. only one of me!

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The most common problem I find in life is the inability to split myself in half so I can be in two places at once! Take for example this morning, I woke up to my three year old being sick, so no playgroup for her this morning. However I am meant to be at the doctors with Chris at 11am as he needs his next prescriptions and a review of how he is getting on. Now normally I would take my youngest with us but a sick three year old and doctors waiting rooms don’t mix, plus I would hate for her to give any bug she may have to an elderly or frail person. Where does this leave me? Well the first and about the only point of call is Chris’ dad, my parents live 200miles away in London, my sister is at University in Preston and Chris isn’t on good enough terms at the moment with anyone else in his family. I don’t really have many friends, and none I could call upon for help, being a carer can isolate you from people. After speaking to Chris’ dad who told me ‘I am going out in half an hour as Chris already knows’ leaving me completely stuck as to what I am meant to do, and while I understand people have their own lives it really feels sometimes that every time I ask for some help its refused.

So what am I going to do? The honest answer is I don’t have a clue, I can’t be in two places at once and while I’ve no one else to help me out there isn’t a lot I can do. Even if I convince Chris to go alone I will be completely out of the loop on his medication and Chris doesn’t always remember everything the doctor has said to him. Not to mention I actually had things to discuss with the doctor myself. Never mind, some things are just entirely out of my hands. I feel torn a million and one ways and while I manage a lot of the time to juggle everything very well there does come the times where I just can’t be in two place at once!


Author: acarerseyes

I am a mum to four gorgeous girls, and a carer to my former partner of eight years, Chris who has a mental illness, BPD. I blog my experiences.. life is tough! We live in Greater Manchester, UK.

One thought on “Two places.. only one of me!

  1. I understand how you feel but remember this you are just one person and accept what your limitations are and do not forget to ask for help within your community resources. Stay strong and have faith. You are in my prayers.

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